Themselves or themself?
The standard reflexive pronoun form that corresponds to the plural forms they and them is themselves:
I just showed the boys the refrigerator and told them to help themselves.
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This is the first step in helping someone to help themself.
This form is not yet widely accepted, however, so you should avoid using it in formal written contexts. If you were writing the sentence above, you should say:
This is the first step in helping someone to help themselves.